A "standard" apology often sounds like: "I'm sorry you felt that way, but I was doing my best." This isn't a fix; it’s a defense mechanism.
When we talk about a "fix" for a relationship damaged enough to require such a gesture, we aren't talking about a simple "I'm sorry." We are talking about the deconstruction of a parental pedestal and the rebuilding of a bond on the level ground of shared humanity. the day my mother made an apology on all fours fix
If you have experienced a moment where a parent finally "broke" and offered a soul-baring apology, the "fix" is only just beginning. An apology of that magnitude opens a door, but you still have to walk through it. A "standard" apology often sounds like: "I'm sorry
It allows the child to feel, perhaps for the first time, that they have agency and that their perspective is the one that matters in that moment. Is This a "Fix" or a Trauma Response? An apology of that magnitude opens a door,